Schlagwortarchiv für: emotions

Distanced Silence

Within the realms of our imagination, a relationship is a quite wonderful miracle for the body, the soul and our mind. Facing the endless joy of love, I’m always engulfed with the maximum of positiveness one can imagine. But being separated from Kat sometimes seems to require a special attention to your emotions. She spent the weekend in Death Valley where nobody can call one up on the mobile phone or simply do some online voip talking via Skype. No, there is nothing but a public phone from which Kat was able to give me calls.

In this situation, what would one say if the feelings betray you? How do you react on external factors that influence you? And how do you achieve your inner balance for the love within you while suffering from the distance almost as much to negate the positiveness of love?

We went out on last Saturday at the Flensburg Honky Tonk to hear live music being played in about 25 different bars and restaurants in the city. Further, of course the group consisting of Lena, Oke, David, Christian, Christoph, Jörn and myself spent a few hours on doing our special-dance-off show in the Deutsches Haus, a larger event hall. Apparently, Lena and I were the only two souls who were suffering from both of our temporary long-distance relationships.

After this long partying event and the masses of lightly dressed girls, at least I knew that my interest in going out was not meeting with all these chicks. Instead of sharing the idea which nearly every male being has during such parties -to get something for the night-, I realized I just went there in order to get rid of Kat from my mind. And as far as I know from Lena, she kind of did the same to have some other thoughts instead those about her boyfriend Jonas.

As soon as I thought about something else, I really did have things in mind which I haven’t thought of for a while. That happened while dancing, but once I closed my eyes (and still moved my body during our show), I continuously thought about Kat. And the more I thought I had fun, the more I thought about her – which was contradictory to the idea of freeing my mind for that evening.

What did this teach me? Actually nothing but a lesson for me which I did not pass. I failed in being strong as everything overcame me last night. I realized I love her more than I can still imagine. But then, fortunately, I realized that already in the past before letting her go to the USA. But within this moment of self-realization, I knew that I can even less survive a relationship if I’m unable to simply call the beloved one. However, I did survive and it is monday. Kat returned already to San Francisco, and I received a mail from her in reply to mine. Finally, I know she’s safe again, and finally we can talk again this evening. But already now I miss being woken up by her call in my night…

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Romance

Especially while watching a love-movie, there’s always emotion involved. I just found this piece of miniature-lore once somewhere in my mind, and it basically sums up the thoughts I’m currently enthralled with:

A romance is an imaginative story full of love and adventure.

But beyond the wonders of love and adventure, it is not just an imagination. It’s the miraclousness of a real relationship. And instead of reflecting only one view on only the romantic moments, for me it is a combination of both good and bad moments. Without either side, the romance would not have this special flavour that makes it unique. Now I’m facing the other side – being all alone with all these feelings… This experience is a powerful one. Not sure whether I’ll be sad or happy.

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Emotional Response

A human being is a complex creation. To gain a state of control and to handle and most importantly to reason its actions and reactions, each human being has developed its own spectra of emotions which are revealed every moment in their life.

An Emotional Response is the reaction of the body to a situation primarily given by an outer influence such as other individuals, groups, things or entities. But the Emotional Response is only one variant of this spectra of emotions. Emotional Responses consist out of two known procedures called „Grief“ and „Stress Reaction“. In terms of psychology, an Emotional Response is not a psychiatric disorder or depression.

Grief
Definition: Grief is defined through a common, intense and painful reaction to loss, death of a loved one, family member or friend.

Symptoms: The symptoms generally occur immediately, or maybe one month after and up to one year from the time of loss: Numbness, Loneliness, Sadness, Guilt, Shock, Anxiety, Anger, Agitation, Crying, Insomnia, Restlessness, Withdrawal.

Treatment: People may talk about and share feelings with the person, and they must tolerate emotions. To allow enough time to pass this situation is important, and an occasional counseling will overcome this situation. Sometimes a symptomatic or brief use of medication is necessary, too.

Stress Reaction
Definition: A Stress Reaction is known as the „normal“ reaction to a disaster, trauma or highly stressful life event.

Symptoms: The symptoms occur immediately after the event and may continue for a period of time, too: Disbelief and shock, Irritability and anger, Sadness, Feeling powerless, Feeling indecisive, Crying, Headaches or stomach problems, Difficulty sleeping.

Treatment: One must alleviate emotional distress, and be able to promote problem-solving techniques in order to help the person. When the individual gains comfortable feelings, it should continue to get back into „usual routine“. However, to seek counseling is helping, too.

Another form of an Emotional Response is a rather understandable method of reacting to an influence to the individual. For example, various colors evoke certain reactions in viewers. Nevertheless these reactions are culturally specific. Nearly in most western countries, brides often wear a white gown as a symbol for purity and widows wear black as a symbol of their sorrow and mourning. However brides wear black in many asian cultures. Colors seen as influence to the individual are leading to a response of the individual, which is known as Emotional Response. The individual who is experiencing the color will be in a moment of pertained emotion. It may be excitable or sensational in a personal defined degree as an emotional nature will lead to a reaction to the input given. The following list will give general examples for the most known colors:

Red – danger, stop, negative, excitement, hot
Dark Blue – stable, calming, trustworthy, mature
Light Blue – youthful, masculine, cool
Green – growth, positive, organic, go, comforting
White – pure, clean, honest
Black – serious, heavy, death
Gray – integrity, neutral, cool, mature
Brown – wholesome, organic, unpretentious
Yellow – emotional, positive, caution
Gold – conservative, stable, elegant
Orange – emotional, positive, organic
Purple – youthful, contemporary, royal
Pink – youthful, feminine, warm
Pastels – youthful, soft, feminine, sensitive
Metallic – elegant, lasting, wealthy

Even today, I lack to see a realistically drawn Emotional Response in movies, books or theatre as how it is described in detail through psychiatry. I beg to differ that any author of major scope has been able to represent the state of deepest „Grief“ or „Stress Reaction“ to a reader, except scientific reports or documentations concerning patients and their behavior under psychiatric and medical treatment. Nevertheless, an Emotional Response on the level of sudden input requiring a sudden output is seen in almost every movie or book. As an audience requires interesting stories, most authors prefer to include common behavior and expand this situation to fit the circumstances of an Emotional Response. A main character may react differently to the set situation as the audience would. The author will achieve the interesting moments which concerns with the audience’s own personal situation, while the audience itself is allowed to understand its own mistakes or the faults of the main character as a lecture to the individual.

As you can see, the understanding of an Emotional Response requires a definition of the terminology. To expand this in most details is fairly possible, but would completely out-leap the given task to compile a small summary. I do not believe the outcome of a situation is important, to where things could have been handled better as they have failed or been a failure itself. Compared to the result, the lecture drawn from the result is the most important key to understand. In my experience, there is no movie, book or anything else that is comparable to my personal expectations to an Emotional Response. The ways of „Grief“ and „Stress Reaction“ are too complex to manifest within a story, and the original input-output setting of an Emotional Response is fairly legit but usually done incomplete to grant me resolve.

In concern of my personal acting, an emotional response drawn by most individuals is not necessarily compatible to me. I have learned that emotions are functional. Emotions can range from a silence hymn to an outburst of rage. To cover these personal feelings, its Emotional Responses and emotions in general means to understand me, and react with more control than other beings may do in their life.
Most people cannot conduct nor want to understand this as I proclaim myself as an emotional soothed being while acting with others. As one has created an understanding my personal Code, the thin line will be created from „no emotion“ to be full of emotions as the key towards emotional existence is peace. Peace itself is known to be a state of tranquility or quiet. This peace may be the result of freedom from disquieting or oppressive thoughts or emotions, and a state of harmony in personal relations. Why am I able to do this, act in this way, and be it? Because I choose to, and because I am. But even if there is a moment of achievement through this objective ability, I know that I do indeed fail. It is the way I choose.

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